I Did This to Myself…Again.

I Did This to Myself…Again.


When will I learn to keep my hands closed?!

On Wednesday, January 3rd, I saddled up for a lesson as my first ride in about a week. It was a 20-degree day, a right heat wave compared to the single digits in the days before and after.

He was very alert and slightly mouthy in the cross ties, which was an indication of a hyper pony. I was pleasantly surprised to have a very calm if forward horse on the lunge. I popped on, and immediately felt him tense. If you’ve ever ridden a hyper, tense, you’d know that they usually have a feel. Beau feels like a very tightly wound coil, ready to spring up or out at any time.

Bending work usually helps him with that, so I started on that as well as attempting to fight everything in me saying “hold him, hold him” and push him forward instead. We worked on the walk and trot for a bit. On the long side going away from home, we went over the poles. On the long side going towards home, I sat his first explosion.

We went back to trotting on the close side of the arena in a circle, working on leg yielding circles in and out and actually getting a pretty nice trot. Then, back down the poles. Same spot, same explosion. Except this time he got me a bit forward, and me being me, I was determined to NOT fall off (mission accomplished). I put my hands down to support myself, and he basically pushed his shoulder out into my open hand, specifically my pinky (my poor abused pinky).

I got Beau back in control with two 10m (ish) circles and got to the other long side before I halted him in pain. After consulting with my trainer to make sure I wasn’t overreacting, I got off. I don’t do well with pain. Both my dad and I have a long history of laying down in the arena after any injury, basically in shock. I did that this time too.

By the time the feeling had passed, my trainer, being the awesome person she is, had Beau almost put away. I helped with one hand and then booked it home. The one good thing about the cold weather is that I could stick my hand out my window on the drive home as an “ice pack.”


The doctor’s visit the next day resulted in xrays, my doctor attempting to fix my dislocated top phalanx (the tip of my finger), and getting a referral to a hand surgeon (or orthopedic doctor). The official diagnosis was that my break from September had never healed (this is called a nonunion break), and I had only widened the fracture this time, as well as re-dislocating it.


Today, I had an appointment with the hand surgeon who told me two things:

  1. I’m getting surgery.

Plan A is to pin it through the skin and possibly a small incision to scrape out old scar tissue. Plan B is to plate and screw the bone itself, which is not optimal, since my fingers are so small.

  1. I should have had surgery the first time I broke it, in September.

My surgeon was actually a bit annoyed I wasn’t sent to see him in September. Luckily, I’ve got a good doctor who can fix it, but the scar tissue that may have formed and the wear from using it for so long will make it complicated (hence, Plan B).

My surgery is scheduled for Thursday morning. I’m getting a custom splint Monday morning, then my post-op appointment is the next Monday. If all goes well, I should be out of my splint in 4-6 weeks. Then it’s physical therapy to keep use of that finger!

All in all, I’m glad it’s getting fixed, but I’m definitely going to struggle to stay off my horse for a month!


Friday Feature: Bridle and Bone Wellness

Friday Feature: Bridle and Bone Wellness

2018 is bringing a new segment to OTTBs and Oxers called Feature Fridays. These pieces are written on small businesses, artists, etc., who I believe merit the attention. These pieces are not paid – they are built on the trust of mutual sharing. Enjoy!

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© Bridle and Bone Wellness

Bridle and Bone is a holistic wellness business run by co-founders Heather Wallace and Danelle Stukas in New Jersey.

Meet Bridle & Bone Wellness: Holistic Wellness for Horses & Dogs
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Heather is a Certified Equine Sports Massage Therapist, Certified Canine Massage Therapist, and an Aromatherapist.

Meet Bridle & Bone Wellness: Holistic Wellness for Horses & Dogs
© Bridle and Bone Wellness

Danelle is a Certified Equine Sports Massage Therapist, Certified Canine Massage Therapist, and Reiki practitioner.

Together, they provide wellness services to the animals in New Jersey. Although I have not personally used Heather or Danelle as they are states away, Beau has had a massage therapy session that he loved, so I can definitely recommend the service itself.

© Bridle and Bone Wellness

You can check out Bridle and Bone’s Shop, where their services and products are listed in one easy place. This includes everything from healing salve to fly and tick spray to equine and canine massage. Everything is very reasonably priced as well, even compared to national brands.

In addition to providing services to her clients, Heather is also the founder of her blog, aptly named Bridle and Bone. The purpose of the blog is to provide insight on holistic wellness to her clients and others interested in the services. Her blog is also known for the Confessions of a Timid Rider series, which follows Heather’s personal riding experiences as an adult re-rider. (I personally loved this series!)

© Heather Wallace 

Heather is responsible for the Equestrian Blog Hops that I try to write each month. Check out my last entry, Blog Hop: Year in Review! The idea is to create a topic each month, which is written about by bloggers all over the world who link their blogs to each other to support and send readers to each other. I really like how it worked in 2017!

Heather is also the author of the Equestrian Handbook of Excuses, a 2017 Literary Selection for the Equus Film Festival!

Equestrian Handbook of Excuses
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As equestrians we are united by our love of horses. Let’s face it. Whether you own, lease, or borrow sometimes you don’t feel like riding. My handy book provides the perfect collection of excuses for you to tell yourself or your trainer.

Buy it here!

Heather has been a real asset to me in starting and growing this blog. She is a social media mastermind, willing to aid in blog set-up questions, and started the Blog Hops that keep me motivated to write at least once a month (although I’m planning on writing more in 2018!). I’m grateful to have stumbled upon her, her business, and her blog, and I recommend you check out all three!

Bridle and Bone Wellness’s Contact Us Page
Email: info@bridleandbone.com
Phone: (732) 784-7195

Bridle and Bone Blog’s Partnership Page
Email:  bridleandbone@gmail.com
Phone: 732-784-7195

Heather Wallace’s Personal Website

Interested in being a part of Feature Fridays? Email me at eventerat14@gmail.com!

2018 Goals

2018 Goals



Overall Goals:

Become more harmonious with Beau for dressage.

  • Teach Beau to bend consistently.
  • Teach Beau to relax consistently.
  • Teach Beau to focus consistently.

Finesse our showjumping.

  • Stop jumping ahead.
  • Take my time in coursework, work sweeping turns.
  • Stay consistent in coursework (teach Beau to stop rushing).

Teach Beau cross country.

  • Actually go cross country with Beau.
  • Assuming he works similarly to SJ, work on consistency and tempo.
  • Ride defensively (no jumping ahead).


Specific goals:

  • Take Beau Starter at a mini trial.
  • Take Beau 2’6″ at a show.
  • Jump 3′ for the first time.
  • Score under a 40 in dressage (we tend to tense at shows, resulting in high scores).
  • Have a consistent Beginner Novice dressage test.
  • Take Beau XC schooling.

What are your goals for 2018? Check back here to see how we do on our goals and if they change at all.

Blog Hop: Year in Review

Blog Hop: Year in Review

This month’s blog hop is about the past year. I can’t believe 2017 is over – it went so fast!

December Equestrian Blog Hop

Early Winter 2017


Most of early winter was spent at my out-of state college that I have since transferred out of to be closer to home. I was only able to ride Beau on my Christmas and Easter/spring breaks. My rides were okay that I can remember. My leaser and my dad kept Beau busy!

At school, I was able to ride a lovely Hanoverian mare, Portia. She was a fantastic way to keep my riding fresh so that I didn’t forget it all! I certainly won’t forget her anytime soon.

Spring 2017

Spring is always an interesting time. The weather warms up, and all you want to do is ride all the time in the nice weather. However, it’s that perfect weather where all the ponies want to do is play, too. It’s too hot to be stiff and too cold to be tired, so it’s the time for ALL the bucks.

(Video should automatically start at 15:00 for the fall – and yes, I do have the super pitiful video of me crawling to Beau, but it will never see the light of day!)

In February 2017, I flipped off Beau, hitting the outdoor arena fence in the process. I was alone. I couldn’t walk, but Beau ran to the opposite side of the arena and caught his leg in his reins. I was so worried, I crawled halfway to him before people found me. It shook me, and much of my summer was spent regaining my confidence.

In March 2017, I started OTTBs and Oxers. I converted it over from my older, smaller blog U:Equestrian. I’m still very happy with the design of my blog!


Summer 2017

Summer was all about riding as much as I could. I don’t think we really progressed much in this season, but it was a lot of fun and relaxing rides. I had my cousins come out to walk around on Beau, who was a saint. There was plenty of jumping and lots of continuing to develop Beau’s muscles. I’m sure if we compared Beau in summer 2016 to summer 2017 there would be a big difference; he’s come so far!

We also placed 1st, 2nd, 2nd, 6th, and 4th at our second hunter show together. He went extremely well, and I really felt like things were clicking that day!

Show Video

Fall 2017

Fall was when Beau and I really started to connect with our new trainer. We really saw a difference, even in the matter of a few weeks. She is giving me the skills necessary to advance Beau to the next level on the flat and is finessing my jumping to give me the confidence boost I need.

(I also broke my pinky by jamming it into Beau’s neck over a jump – 0/10 do NOT recommend. My pinky will probably always be slightly disfigured from it.)

I also started contributing Bridle and Bone’s Blog Hop during the fall, and it’s so nice to be a part of such a great group of bloggers!


Late Winter 2017


I think right now I’m most proud of how Beau is handling winter. This will be our third winter together, and it is the first time I haven’t had a fire-breathing dragon the majority of my rides. Does he get wound up? Sure. But he’s learning to settle, and I’m learning the tools I need to help him.

We placed 2nd and 6th (Christmas colors!) at our last show at South Farm, and I couldn’t be prouder. It was our first *jumper* show together, and we both handled the twists and turns well.

Show Video

I think if I had to change anything, I wouldn’t be so hard on myself. I tend to really criticize myself and Beau and struggle to see our process. Maybe it’s because I had a good ride today, but the more positive I am, the more positive our rides tend to be. I need to remember that!

I would also be sure to post more, consistently. That’s definitely something I would change, and plan to change for 2018 – so be sure to check back in for regular posts here on OTTBs and Oxers!

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National Day of the Horse

National Day of the Horse

National Day of the Horse is December 13.

Okay, maybe I missed it. But here is a post about how grateful I am that horses have been a part of my life six days late.

First up, my handsome boy, Beau:

  • Off the track Thoroughbred
  • 17hh
  • Gelding
  • Slightly crazy

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Next, Norman.

  • Passed away on December 16, 2014.
  • Warmblood
  • Gelding
  • We were going to buy him, but he passed from an infected hock injury.
  • I rarely rode him (he was really my dad’s), but I loved him.



  • Off track Thoroughbred
  • 15.3hh
  • Gelding
  • My first true lease, and I loved him very much.
  • Passed away within the past year.




  • Off track Thoroughbred (sense a theme yet?)
  • First horse my dad and I shared
  • 16.2hh
  • Gelding
  • Currently teaching little ones at a lovely barn in central Ohio.

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  • The Original Thoroughbred (that I worked with…)
  • Gelding
  • Passed away in 2013, the first horse I ever loved.

Obviously, I can’t put all the horses who have made an impact in my life on here, I’d be here forever. But I’m very happy to be able to list these select few that I loved more than anything in the world.

Blog Hop: Wishy-Washy Ambitions

Blog Hop: Wishy-Washy Ambitions

November Equestrian Blog Hop

First of all, I’m posting this late (oops), which is why you won’t find it in the blog hop collection added at the bottom of this post. Oh well, still fun to post about.

I’m writing this late because I couldn’t really decide what to say. I have big ambitions, but I’m overly logical, so sometimes it’s easier to make smaller goals instead.

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Of course, I have the dreams of riding around the bluegrass fields at Rolex (er, Land Rover?). I watch the many motivational YouTube videos showing the high jumpers and perfect dancers in the sandbox and dream.

I compare myself to the big names and think, “Yeah, I could do that. I want to do that.”

Ironically, I have a horse that could do it, too. Out of the two of us, he’s not the one holding back.

I’ve been riding for about 7 years. I’ve never jumped 2’9. I’ve never jumped a 2’6″ oxer. It’s not that I don’t want to, it’s just that I’ve never given myself the opportunity. There’s always an excuse. He’s too runny. I’m not stable enough. We need to work on our flat more. (Okay, that’s true). Work on your fundamentals and the height will come later. 

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So, I work on smaller goals. Compete at Starter successfully. Ride my bronco without falling off (always a good plan). Get a little more bend, or suspension, or impulsion. Learn more about what makes him tick. Learn more about equine care. Every time I check something off this invisible list of goals, I’m just that much closer to my ambitions. I’ll get there.

I suppose my ambitions are two-fold. I’d love to get to an FEI level of eventing, even if it’s when I’m old and grey. That’s something I’ll always want. But for now, I’ll focus on my goals that I can accomplish!


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Safety Initiatives in U.S. Eventing

Safety Initiatives in U.S. Eventing

With all of the back and forth on safety in eventing after the euthanization of Boyd Martin’s Crackerjack at Les Etoiles de Pau, Doug Payne’s Facebook post (a copy of the post by Denis Glaccum) has raised over $1500 in donations to safety research after laying out the scope of safety efforts in relation to the fatality itself.

But what is the USEA already doing to research safety in eventing before a fall occurs?

In the comments of the post, one USEA member brought up the idea of transparency – how can the association members see what the board and committees see? I brought up the idea of an annual report – which already exists – but the fact that I didn’t even know about it shows that it is not enough in of itself.

Next, Rob Burk, the CEO of the USEA, was brought into the conversation. He linked a series of useful pages – which, again, I didn’t know existed. However, the information on the pages, while explained well, was wordy even to me, a nerdy college student with way too much time on her hands. Of course, I had to be extra and make the infographic I suggested myself.

So, I’ve done the work for you! Below is a series of graphics that pull out the main points from each report in an easy-to-understand way. Obviously, by doing it this way, you lose context and other factors, so I’ve also included the links to the pages themselves in case something strikes your attention.

I believe the USEA is doing a phenomenal job increasing safety in conjunction with the other national and international associations and governing bodies. Do we have a long way to go? Yes. But it’s important to see how far we’ve come and how much we are doing. Many people believe eventers live on the edge all the time (okay, maybe we do), but we also care. We give 110% to make this sport better every, single day.

I hope you find this useful and learn something new!

If you feel inclined to donate to the USEA, there is a donate button at the bottom of Doug’s post.

If you would like to download a PDF version of this infographic, click HERE.






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If you spot a mistake or would like to speak with me about this topic, email me at eventerat14@gmail.com. Thanks for reading!

Blog Hop: Halloween Past, Present, & Future

Blog Hop: Halloween Past, Present, & Future


October’s Bridle and Bone Blog Hop is appropriately Halloween-themed.

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To be perfectly honest, Halloween is one of my least favorite holidays. I have zero self-control, so put me in front of candy, and I’ll eat it. Not fantastic for a girl who really wants to watch her sugar intake. So, I’ll keep this short and sweet!

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One of my best friends may be the queen of Halloween FX makeup, but I am not, and costumes are not my strong suit.

So, limitation of candy + bad costumes = boring Halloween.

I haven’t had a barn Halloween tradition in years. At my first barn, PLF, we had a Halloween costume party, but after that it never seemed important, especially as I drifted between farms. But I distinctly remember my brother dressing up with the horse he used to ride as Toy Story characters at that first barn and letting the old schoolies bob for apples!

I would love to have a Halloween tradition. My current barn family is amazing, and I plan to stay here as long as I can. We didn’t do anything this year, but I’d love to have a costume contest or something fun like that – a way to party together.

However, we’re also lucky to have plenty of Halloween-themed shows (especially one well-known Hunter Pace) near us, and I’d absolutely love to be able to do one or more of those. So, once Beau and I have conquered some more shows and we’ve found the elusive horse trailer we need, maybe this can be a Halloween tradition for years to come.

Whatever spooky tradition we come up with, I can’t wait to share it with Beau!

Cavaletti, the Canter, and a Grid

Cavaletti, the Canter, and a Grid


Two weeks ago, I had a dressage lesson with my trainer. I pulled two main objectives from it:

  • Keep the contact in the transitions
  • Achieve a collected, bouncy-ball canter

When we first got Beau, he rooted his mouth all the time. Not to find the connection but to avoid it. This meant that I started riding with a really, really light contact and even losing more contact in the transitions. Eventually, I started riding with more of a contact in the gaits, but I never started keeping the connection in the transitions again. I think it also helped that we moved from the slow twist bit he came in to a baucher to the smooth d-ring snaffle he’s in now. He needed the slow twist when we got him, but he’s learned to respond to light touches on the bit as well as leg and voice cues.

It was insane how as soon as I figured out how to keep the contact in the transitions, his head went down and his hind end came up under him. Magic. We only got it a few more times in the lesson, but I’ve been working at it in my rides and man does it make a difference.

The next objective was to achieve a collected, bouncy ball canter. We achieved this through transitions and cavaletti (well, a single one). We used a 20 meter circle to work on this. 6 canter strides and 6 trot strides made Beau rock back on his haunches and stay light on his shoulder. Next, we moved to the ground pole. Whenever we work on a pole or a jump, my trainer wants me to really push him to it. By doing that, he sits back on his hind end and actually uses himself.

We know Beau can extend his stride, easily. He has a 10 to 12′ stride in a working canter, can extend to about 14′, and can collect to about 7′, though that’s really pushing it. He has a harder time collecting, and we really want him to be able to do it, not just for dressage work but also so that he can make tight turns and spots in the jump arena.

This week, our lesson was more about jumping. Our objectives were:

  • For me to stop pitching my shoulders forward and down
  • For Beau to push up to the jump

My trainer set up a no-stride bounce to a four stride (I think) single. We worked at it for a while, really keeping a steady trot and an up-and-down canter. The canter helped me to be able to push him to the base of the jump. We also worked on my position, keeping my hips back and my shoulders up.

Lessons are an important part of my riding. I’m really starting to see progress, although winter is coming and Beau will start getting his cold weather crazies soon!





Equestrian Blog Hop: What Started It All

Equestrian Blog Hop: What Started It All

When Heather of Bridle and Bone (psst: all my links open in a new tab – so click away!) posted about this blog hop, I instantly knew that I wanted to be a part of it. Not only is it a great way to network and meet other bloggers, I knew it would be a great chance to get OTTBs and Oxers’s name out there. I can’t wait to read and comment on the other blogs and read other blogger’s opinions of mine.


I am probably one of the newest blogs participating in this blog hop.

I started posting on OTTBs and Oxers on March 18th of this year with 18 Motivational Quotes. That was just over 6 months ago!

Before that, I had an even smaller Blogger site called U:Equestrian. I decided to switch to OTTBs and Oxers for a couple of reasons:

  1. The name came to me out of the blue and how could I not use it??
  2. I’m more comfortable with WordPress, as I’ve been using it for years to create websites for other people.
  3. Part of U:Equestrian was based around University. As I’m already a sophomore in college, I wanted my blog to be able to grow with me after I graduate.

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Why did I decide to start blogging in the first place?

I think it all stems from my love of writing. Since I was a little girl in grade school, I’ve always had my nose tucked in a book. I could only read so much before the need to write my own stories won me over.

In sixth grade, I started writing my very first book, a shapeshifter romance centered on an adventure. I finished it in eighth grade, and for those two years, I constantly had my flower print composition notebook and a pen in my hands.

In high school, I started writing a spin-off of that same novel – this time more a historical romance. It was also during this time that I learned how to write technically. I was blessed to be able to take Honors and AP classes that taught me proper writing techniques. Now, I’m working on my third novella, a fictional story based on the Manchester bombing.

It made sense to me to combine my love of writing with my love of my horse. A blog was the logical answer – plus, I knew it could be fun!

Blogging allows me to keep a journal of how far Beau and I have come – which is important to me as an amateur with a difficult horse. It also lets me get my opinions to other equestrians on products (Review: Annie’s Equestrienne Breeches) and current events (The Rolex Red Carpet!). I can even reflect on the important events in my life and how they affect my life as an equestrian, even if they are not equestrian in nature (Coming Home).

A big part of my blog experience is my presence on Twitter’s equestrian hub, fondly dubbed “The Island.” Through it, I received the inspiration for my last post and huge project, Rider Drug Use: Is It a Problem?. I also find it is a great platform to connect with your audience. I’ve even found a great support group for my non-blog writing in The Island Writers (Shout-out to you, girls!). My Twitter is @OTTBsandOxers.

What have I learned?

So far, I’ve learned that the equestrian blogging community is comprised of many incredible people who love to support each other. I have never felt alone in my quest to discover what blogging holds for my future. There is always someone to go to with questions or somewhere to look for inspiration.

Something I still struggle with is how to make my blog stand out in a sea of fantastic equestrian bloggers. I have an awesome, amazing horse, and I love chronicling our adventures, but so do plenty of other people. I am currently trying to start an IHSA (Intercollegiate Horse Show Association) team at my school, which I planned to write about, but I am running into speed bump after speed bump. I’m a competitive person, but I don’t have a trailer, so we don’t show many times a year.

So, what do I have that’s unique?

  1. This silly, adorable, tries-his-heart-out horse.


  2. A university perspective: I’m a sophomore dealing with horses, a job, school, and volunteering all at the same time.

  3. A competitive mindset – even if I’m not competing all the time, I still have goals for my rides that are fun to read.


  4. Dedication to this blog – I’m currently posting between one and two times a week.

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Be sure to check out my other posts if you enjoyed this one – thanks for reading!

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